Just Ask
You know that question you have on your mind for X person that you just haven’t asked yet? Why is that? What is holding you back?
For most of us, what holds us back is the fear of the answer. We are afraid of what the person might say. We would rather live in fear and uncertainty than ask the question outright.
I have learned in my own experience and in coaching many women leaders and business owners that our fear of the unknown causes us to stop in our tracks and not ask the question that has been on our minds.
What is the worst that can happen? I always ask my clients this question when I know they have a question they want to ask but are afraid to. I know my clients go to that “horrible” place that they are fantasizing about in their minds. I want to hear exactly what they are afraid of and how those worst fears COULD play out…why? Because once we do that, we can see if our worst fear is really a fear to be feared or something that isn’t a big deal at all.
When we don’t say our fears out loud, if we don’t write them down, we give them too much control over us. We allow them to rule our minds and minimize our actions…but when we speak them out loud or write them down, they now have a life of their own. You can now see them for what they are worth and create space between YOU and YOUR FEAR.
Why is this important? Well, I have coached many business owners who are worried about an employee leaving. A business owner says they can’t make future plans because they don’t know where their employees stand. When I ask them, “Have you asked them?” their answer is always NO; why would I do that?
Why would you ask the person directly the question you are dying to ask them? So you will know the ANSWER, and when you have the answer, you can take action accordingly.
Stop setting yourself up for failure by not asking the questions you need to ask to move forward.
If you are afraid or don’t know how to ask the question correctly or in a manner that aligns with your leadership style, reach out because I can help you. Twenty minutes and you will have the answer you have been waiting for, and that answer can help you MOVE FORWARD. Just ask!