Love Yourself to Your Goals
February is all about L-O-V-E. Sure, Valentine's Day is a Hallmark holiday, but I appreciate the reminder to take a moment and let the most important people in my life know that I see them, they matter, and they are special to me. Or maybe make time in my busy schedule for a romantic dinner or fun activity together. I might even take the time to buy a gift I just know that special person will love. But you wanna know who I usually forget? The MOST important person. ME.
Do you forget yourself too?
I’m here to tell you; we gotta knock that off. We have to love ourselves, too! To create a balanced life, a life worth living, we have to show up for ourselves as much as we show up for others. You deserve it as much as they do. And frankly, it’s almost impossible to reach your goals, those all-important Lifeaholic goals, if you don’t love yourself along the way.
So what exactly does it mean to love yourself? And how do you do it?
Loving yourself means making time to take care of your physical and mental well-being. It means believing in your abilities and worth, investing in yourself, and having faith in your journey. It means not comparing yourself to others and accepting yourself for who you are, flaws and all. Above all, it means being compassionate and gentle with yourself. Not just during the month of love but all the time.
If you’re not used to showing yourself love, you might need some practice. That’s ok! I’m here to help you love yourself all the way to your goals. Here’s how:
Put YOU on your calendar. I live and breathe by my calendar; if it’s not on there, it’s not gonna get done. So take a moment and look at your calendar with the goal of blocking out time for yourself. I suggest setting aside 3 hours every month just for you. It can be broken down into small pockets for nightly reading or exercise or blocked off all at once for a day with friends or family. Whatever fills your cup and makes you feel good, schedule it in, just like you would a client meeting. And don’t even think about missing that appointment!
Start each day by telling yourself something you love about yourself. Don’t worry; you don’t have to say it out loud or tell anyone else. But by starting your day with that one positive thought, your brain will get used to a more positive outlook, and any negative self-talk will have a harder time breaking through. It’s ok if this doesn’t feel natural to you at first; I promise that if you keep at it, it will start to flow more naturally.
It’s really that simple. The nicer you are to yourself, the more you place importance on taking care of you as much as everyone and everything else, the easier it is to commit to the daily actions that move you closer to your goals. Ultimately, love begets love, so let’s use this process of loving ourselves to create more balance, fun, and alignment in our daily lives. I want you to have the ability to show up as the best mother, wife, friend, and most importantly….SELF!
I’ll be talking about this all month long so be sure to follow me on Instagram!